Are you wanting to learn how to pick up girls? I am going to discuss something in this article that may have slipped your mind when you first decided to finally get off your butt and do something about this woman situation of yours. You may end up thinking that this article is a little condescending, or a little redundant, but let me assure you — as a former keyboard jockey ignoring this important piece of information caused me to waste countless hours sitting around on the internet when I could have been logging in hours and meeting women out in the real world. I want to discuss the importance of getting out into the real world to learn how to pick up girls as opposed to sitting online and discussing theory.
A large part of the reason why a lot of guys aren’t good with women is simply because, for whatever reason, they haven’t spent a lot of time socially interacting with women. Fear and limiting beliefs are usually at the root of most of our problems when dealing with women. This creates a snowball effect where many guys who fear women end up having negative interactions with women because they creep them out with their awkwardness. In turn, a lot of guys end up making wrong assumptions as to why women don’t interact with them the way they would like. Some become resentful and end up hating women, others internalize things and make up stories about themselves or excuses so that they can avoid putting themselves back into uncomfortable situations that end with them feeling rejected. If you are reading this post, then its obvious you are somewhere along the path of uprooting some of your old behaviors and beliefs when it comes to picking up girls. Good for you!
Your fear is what keeps you from progressing faster than you already are. Let me rephrase that, you will learn to pick up girls at a faster rate the more you are able to identify fear and understand how it keeps you from doing the things that you perceive to be a threat to your well being. Back in the day, before you decided to master this girl situation and become a pick up artist, your fear interpreted past failures with women to mean that there was something wrong with you. In an odd way, you benefitted from this because this belief kept you from sticking your neck out. You get rejected, you interpret that to mean that you are either undesireable or incompitent with women, so you now have the excuse not to try any more. This kind of thing is pretty easy to see.
When you begin to study pick up, you need to keep a close eye on this type of behavior. You will find that fear in some form or another will continue to find its way into the process and slow you down. First, you will be afraid to approach. Then, once you are finally comfortable with the whole approaching thing (rejection always sucks, but you learn how to deal with it better as time goes on) you will find yourself not taking certain risks or not pushing the interaction forward out of fear of the girl saying no to you. A guy will go out to pick up girls, and won’t carry a rubber with him. Unconsciously, he is holding himself back. He fears whatever part of the process, and unconscious roadblocks appear. If you stick with this long enough, you will find some form of fear at every sticking point you encounter. It’s ok, its part of the process!
Some guys will get good at attracting girls, and find themselves interacting on a consistent basis without being able to get a phone number, a kiss or to take them home. Usually the problem here is that they have finally pushed through a personal barrier and they don’t want to ruin their new self image by risking rejection. They feel attractive because they can attract women, but they cant seal the deal and actually pick up girls and take them home with them because they unconsciously fear doing something to ruin their image of themselves. As I have said before, getting good with women is an internal job. Your self perception is basically an unquestioned collection of beliefs. Often times, a lot of these beliefs are unquestioned. Getting good at pick up is about consistently pushing yourself forward and challenging these limiting beliefs. Its tough work and involves facing fear head on. Luckily, we can do this in small, manageable chunks. Just make sure that you occasionally ask yourself if you aren’t getting in your own way by holding onto certain things just because they feel comfortable. Sitting at a computer and studying how to seduce women is comfortable and if I’m not careful, I can convince myself that I’m bettering myself by doing this but I’m really not.
If you want to learn how to pick up girls, you have to limit your time studying pick up material online. It is quite natural to feel like you should be hunting down the latest and greatest techniques. They aren’t going to do you a bit of good if you never get out there and make them yours. You can have all the knowledge in the world how to pick up girls but it isn’t going to do you a bit of good if your ass stays glued to your chair!
You wan’t to learn how to pick up girls?
Go out and Pick up girls!
