A lot of times I have friends ask me how to go about seducing a particular type of woman.

“How do you seduce a Christian woman?”

Lucky for us, the answer is the same no matter what type of woman!

“It depends.”

Well, it does and it doesn’t.

If you want to know how to seduce a Christian woman it is done the same as the way you would go about seducing an atheist or a militant feminist.  You seduce by displaying social value, creating comfort, and creating sexual tension.  Sometimes you don’t need the comfort, but that is for the ‘adventuress’ type of girl you see drunk and dancing with her miniskirt pulled up so high you can see her thong – the party girl.  Those types often don’t need much comfort building, or want it for that matter.

You see, seduction is all about playing off of a womans biological drives.  It doesn’t matter much what she says she is into or what kind of ideology she happens to follow.  Don’t get me wrong, it is MUCH easier to display social value in a Christian venue if you happen to belong there and can speak the lingo and are the authentic article.  But what is most important is that she PERCEIVES that you are an alpha male (notice that I said ”an” and not “THE” alpha male!) and that you sub communicate value.  Women are biologically programmed to respond to men that can provide enough value (social, physical, genetic) so as to make sure that their offspring have the greatest probability of survival.  The specifics of what each woman needs in order to percieve such value will vary from woman to woman, and it is utterly pointless and a sign of low (percieved) self worth to attempt to bend yourself in such a way as to match what you believe a specific girl will need in order hit those buttons.

Instead, we take a general approach and maintain an inward focus.  That’s right.  The way to make a Christian girl like you, or any woman for that matter, is to focus on yourself and become a sex worthy guy.  Seduction and pick up is a mental game.  Sure there are techniques and methods to help install particular attitudes and behaviors that will help you succeed, but when all is said and done, its about actually becoming an alpha male and coupling that with a sensitivity towards what the woman is going through throughout the process that will ultimately make you good at getting with girls.

Inner game in pua speak.

As you learn to stomp out your inner chumpiness, you will automatically become more and more attractive to women as a whole.  Mind you, this does not mean that you will be 100% successful with every woman you want to pick up and take home with you.  Not even master pick up artists like Neil Straus or Mystery have a 100% success rate with women.  But these guys have found a way of being that works for them and makes them overall more attractive to females as a whole.

So the next time you find yourself asking “how can I seduce a christian woman?”  Use that as a cue to turn your attention inwards and ask yourself:

“WHO IS THE MAN?”

I know the answer for me is:

“THIS GUY!”

If you want to learn how to build sexual tension with your wife or girlfriend so that you can have sex more frequently or more passionately, you will be surprised to learn just how easy it is to do. Many men come from a place of sexual scarcity and end up shooting themselves in the foot when it comes to getting their sexual needs met because of this. If you are in a committed relationship, it can be hard to sub communicate that you aren’t sexually needy, specially if your partner knows that you aren’t having any sex.

One of the first thing that often goes out the window in long term relationships is all of the good sex that the couple used to have in the beginning of the courtship. You will often see men either begging their wives for it, or complaining to others that they never have sex. It’s quite sad to imagine being in it for the long haul and never having the sexual fulfillment that you require. Romantic relationships are after all sexual in nature. Sure, there is more to a loving relationship than just sex, but if you aren’t having sex, you may as well married a friend instead of a lover. Many people forget this, and all too often people become complacent and resign themselves to the fact that their sex life is basically over or nearly non existent. Im here to tell you that it doesn’t have to be that way and I am also going to go out on a limb and say that chances are pretty good that the reason why things are that way is your fault! As the male in the relationship, it is your job to lead, and it is your job to make sure that your partner maintains a certain amount of attraction for you.

In order for a sexual relationship to flourish, both partners need to remain attracted to each other on some level. Of course, it is only natural for things to stagnate or to feel as if you are getting tired of the same old crackers when you have been with the same person for years and years. It is entirely your responsibility to make sure that a certain level of tension remains between the two of you if you are going to maintain a healthy relationship. When the tension goes, there will no longer be any excitement when the two of you have sex.

So how exactly do you maintain sexual tension, and how do you do this with someone who you have been together with for a long period of time? Understand that in order to build sexual tension, it involves the desire for sex coupled with an opposing force that gets in the way. Without this opposing force, there is no tension. Without the tension, the sex gets boring, quick! Look at any female romance novel or romantic movie – the main character in the story ALWAYS suffers a dilemma. There is always an element of unresolved sexual tension with the object of her desire, even after she has already had sex with the guy!

So how do you create this opposing force?

Once you do this a couple of times, it gets ridiculously easy. You simply throw up false barriers to sex. There are a variety of ways to do this, and the possibilities are endless.

Stare at a desirable part of your partners body out in public and when she asks you what you are doing, tell her what you would do to her, if only you weren’t at church.

Another way you can play around with this is to create hoops for her to jump through. In a joking fashion, if you see her struggling to accomplish something, tell her that you only give sex to women who are smart enough to figure out how to work the remote.

Of course you need to calibrate this to your wife or girlfriend, if there have been repeated fights about the remote or if she has some kind of hang up with the fact that she thinks you think she is stupid, then that line is going to backfire big time.

The ‘formula’ for sexual tension is as follows: draw attention to, or assume that sexual desire is present (it probably is even if she acts like it isn’t) and then create an imaginary barrier (that she will be able to overcome). You can do this indefinitely. You can even do this while having sex. Make her ask permission to come, if she forgets to — stop, make her suffer!  You can easily travel into the realm of BDSM once you find yourself enjoying this kind of role play. You can never go wrong increasing the amount of sexual tension. You can continue to ramp it up as much as you like –even during intercourse. Just make sure to pay attention to the reactions that you are getting from your partner and make the necessary adjustments.  And if you are one of those petty types, never use this to directly punish your partner in a vindictive fashion.

If you ever wanted to learn how to build sexual tension in women you just met or even a woman you have been with for years, know that tension isn’t some mysterious force that simply exists or does not exist.   There are things you can do to build it up, and there are things you can do that will take it away.

An important element in building sexual tension in women is remaining mysterious.  Many guys blow this when they find a girl they are interested in and begin ‘opening up’ and telling them their life’s story right off the bat.   Aside from ruining her ability to be able to wonder about you, opening up in this way too soon sends a message that you have been dying to tell somebody your story.   It reeks of being someone who has been lonely.  In a long term relationship you may not be able to get away with doing this, but rest assured that there are even more powerful techniques I will discuss later on in this article that are open to guys who want to increase sexual tension in the woman they have been sleeping with for a long period of time.

Sub communicating that you are needy in any way is a sure fire way to destroy attraction and kill any tension that may exist – this applies to women you have just met, and it also applies to people in long term relationships.

If she asks you questions, give vague answers. If she presses on, make her guess. By working to get information out of you, she becomes more and more invested in the conversation with you. Allowing her the room to imagine things about you will ensure that she thinks about you when you are not around. Whether this is in your game plan or not, know that this is the time that people fall in love with each other. ‘Absence makes the heart grow fonder’ is a wonderful saying, just think about the last time you fell in love with someone. Im willing to bet that a large part of what built up to that situation was the fact that you where thinking about her in her absence. Im rambling off subject…

One of the most important things you need to remember when you are learning how to build sexual tension with women is the fact that there needs to be an opposing force to her attraction to you- other wise there is no ‘tension’. As counter intuitive as that may seem, trust the fact that she needs something to be in her way. Things that come easy to us are undervalued. Things that seem impossible to get are given up on. The idea here is to make sure there is some kind of impediment to hooking up with you or having sex. If it is a girl you have yet to sleep with, one of the best things you can do is to hide your sexual interest in her. Be aware that she will most likely do everything in her power to INDIRECTLY get some kind of signal that you are interested in her in a sexual manner. You know what happens when she gets that signal that you are ‘hers’? Thats right, her interest will take a nose dive.

What are the things she will do to find out that you are sexually interested in her? She may bring up a sexual topic and watch to see if you get excited to talk about it (this shows you are sexually needy), she may touch you – in a way that indirectly lets you know its ok to touch her, and then wait to see if you go all touchy-feely at the first opportunity. This is another way in which she will be able to get you to play your hand and show whether or not you are chomping at the bit to get sexual. Women want to sleep with sex worthy guys. Sex worthy guys live in a state of sexual abundance, and as such do not put sex above everything else and they certainly do not get tunnel vision or overtly display sexual interest with just any stranger or person they just met.

The idea here is that you resist your urge to give her sexual validation. She will do things to look for it. Do not openly comment on this (unless you know what you are doing)- that in itself will either trigger her anti-slut defence or if you are coming from the wrong place, it will show a lack of social intelligence on your part.

Another thing that you can do to build sexual tension with women is to tease them in a particular way. Commonly called “push pull” for our purposes here, it would be better to think of it as “pull push”. Keep in mind that all of this teasing is to be done in a lighthearted manner. NEVER serious! When we push, we do it in a playful manner. A couple of examples are in order:

“WOW! You are looking beautiful today … for a change.”
“You know, you are one of the hottest girls I’ve spoken to … in the last 20 seconds.”
“You have the cutest smile Ive seen today … oh wait I forgot, make that the second cutest smile.”

Giving compliments with an embedded take away are easy ways to build sexual tension using banter lines. They are delivered in a fun, playful manner but understand that even though you are relaying the information in a fun or sarcastic tone, there is a part of what you are saying that legitimately registers within her unconscious mind. Hearing conflicting statements like this will build attraction, give her hope that you are interested in her, increase her need to get sexual validation from you, and increase sexual tension.

For those who are in long term relationships or who are dealing with women they have already slept with or are dealing with a woman they know they can sleep with, a very easy way to build sexual tension with a woman is to impose false barriers.

“If we weren’t in a church right now, Id do XYZ”
“If I didn’t think that you would make too much noise, right now I would take you and XYZ”

The barriers can be anything. Watch out using them on women with low self esteem or on women that you have just met. Though it may work beautifully for some, if the woman is overly insecure you can make her give up. Keep your eyes open and watch her reactions. Calibrate! Know too that you can continue this kind of play indefinitely, continuing to create new barriers as old ones are removed. This can be a lot of fun, and at the same time you can take it too far. While you can NEVER have too much sexual tension, you can either trip off her insecurity or you can fry her circuits.

Yes, women can get sexually frustrated to the point of violence! Ive seen it happen.. Just remember to calibrate and pay attention to the reactions you get when you play like this. This is powerful stuff!

HOW TO BUILD SEXUAL TENSION

Want to get women into bed fast? Creating massive amounts of sexual tension is one of the ways it can be done. In order to learn how to spark sexual tension, we must first define what it is, then we can discuss how to create it.

WHAT IS SEXUAL TENSION?

First off, psychological tension is defined as “a state of mental or emotional strain or suspense” or “the action of stretching something tight.” What this suggests is that sexual tension is a form of suspense in which there are conflicting drives at play. Obviously there is a sexual drive, but it needs to be coupled with suspense. So we can define sexual tension as the strain that is produced when sexual urges are in conflict with some other drive.

Usually this ‘other drive’ will be something along the lines of the woman not knowing whether or not you are interested in her in a sexual manner, or if she does, some other obstacle that is going to get in the way of you being able to consummate the act.

Unresolved sexual tension is a common theme amongst almost any romantic novel or girly movie in existence. Women LOVE sexual tension and are attracted to men who can inspire and play with this emotion. I say the word emotion for a reason, tension is a feeling and as such it can be coaxed, transferred and cultivated.

The first step in creating sexual tension in a woman is creating comfort, then we go on to sexual feelings. The way you do this is by first creating comfort followed by sexual feelings in yourself first! Remember, throughout the seduction process, your job is to lead. In order to lead someone into any state, you need to first go there yourself. The process in which you get sexual is similar to what a woman needs to feel sexual, though it may take a little longer.

Though sexual excitement is a form of arousal, we first need relaxation before we switch gears. This is a physiological process and has something to do with your autonomic nervous system and how our bodies function. Though most younger guys won’t have much of a problem with this, as we get older and our hormone levels change, you will notice that you are less quick to get excited. It is then that you will see how true this is. Relax first. Build comfort. It is part of the seduction process anyways. You get comfortable, and then you begin to visualize yourself doing sexual things with the woman you are talking to. The mental aspect of building comfort involves cultivating a warm and accepting vibe. Judgmentalness, ridicule and extreme sarcasm can kill a woman’s ability to feel comfortable around you — work to eliminate these mood killers from your persona, specially when it comes to seducing women.

During this process it is vital that you never play your hand and overtly admit that you want to have sex with her. This is one of the most important parts about creating tension. There needs to be a form of internal conflict. You should leave her guessing as long as possible. You hint at and make vague sexual statements that may have double meanings. This gets her thinking about sex without you telling her to. Ross Jeffries is THE master at this, he uses NLP and hypnotic language to get girls thinking about sex. If a girl is always thinking about sex when she is talking to you, and you haven’t directly brought the subject to her mind, guess what eventually happens? She believes she is sexually attracted to you!

So far, it goes like this:

-  We create comfort, most problems that arise when trying to sleep with a woman, such as inability to overcome last minute resistance, have to do with a lack of comfort!  Tension will make you sexually attractive, comfort (combined with logistics) will allow her to go there with you.  The exception to this rule are ‘party girls’ or ‘adventuresses’ who are either too drugged up to care, low self esteem, or are thrill seeking.

- Once there is comfort, we go sexual ourselves, remember: state is transferable, as you get horny, she gets horny!

- We can also work on the mental level by using vague statement that can have sexual meanings while never directly admitting sexual interest, even if she asks or makes a comment about it. The idea is that we do not diffuse the sexual tension by validating her sexually.

- We can also increase sexual interest by the way you touch her. The same rules apply. Comfort first, and leave her guessing. Your touch should NEVER be overtly sexual until you are having sex! And even then, you tease, tease, tease! When it comes to touch, less is always more! Women often relieve sexual tension by trying to touch you –remember this and use it to your advantage!

- The name of the game in creating sexual tension is to leave her guessing. You never show your hand until it is too late. Even if she already knows you are into her, leave her guessing. Allow her natural insecurities to do their job and make her second guess herself.

Know that just because you have slept with, or seduced a woman, it does not mean that you can no longer create this form of sexual attraction through the use of tension. By continuing to find new and creative ways to implement false barriers between the two of you having sex, you can almost always find a way to create unresolved sexual tension. This is an essential component that often goes by the wayside in committed relationships. You can continue to improve sexual chemistry between you and your wife, girlfriend or whatever provided you remember to play around with tension.

Never let her off the hook and learn to thrive in this state. As you learn to cultivate and build sexual tension in women, you will begin to find just how much fun it is to play with this kind of energy. This is where seduction can get really fun — even if you dont end up sleeping with the girl!

Learning how to understand the signs of sexual tension will go a long way in helping you learn how to pick up women and even more so how to make sure that once you pick a girl up, that you close the deal and sleep with her.  Learning how to pay attention to your environment and pick up on the social and physiological cues from the girl you are interacting with will go a long way in accelerating your journey down the learning curve as it pertains to hooking up with women.  The sooner you can learn to relax and split your attention between what you are doing and the signals she is sending back to you, the sooner you will find yourself in bed with her.  Getting good with women not only requires determination with regards to trying new things, it also requires that you learn how to interact with your environment more sensitively than you are accustomed to.

One of the first thing that many guys are surprised to learn when they finally find themselves consistently escalating with women in a sexual way is the fact that even though a girl is obviously aroused and wanting to move forward with the interaction, she will often do and say things to interfere with what is going on.  Early in my ‘career’ I would often take some of their antics literally and walk away from what was unbeknownst to me as a prime opportunity to have sex because I was only focused on the words that where coming from their mouths.  Later on as I began paying attention to what was going on and putting myself in the girls shoes (not literally!) I began to understand that women often have conditioned reactions to becoming aroused due to a variety of factors ranging from social pressure (not wanting to look like a slut) to very real concerns about safety or becoming pregnant.  As I became more proficient at noticing the physical signs of sexual attraction in women, my ability to seduce women took off.I learned that in order to overcome last minute resistance, I needed to push comfort and pay close attention to the fact that often what the woman was saying to me contradicted the signals her body was giving me. I learned to tune into the nonverbal cues they where giving me without getting upset with some of the barriers they would throw up to prevent the seduction from going full course.

I’ve already gave my disclaimer about when a girl says ‘no’ or ’stop’ but Ill say it again anyways.

I am not about rape or anything that comes anywhere near that.  Once again I want to make very sure that if someone tells you to ’stop’, you  stop escalating.  ’Stop’ will have different meanings depending upon the context it is being said.  Usually, if a woman is worked up and says ’stop’, she is simply  telling you to slow down and stay with what you are doing.  Women usually take a little longer to warm up and get in the mood than most men do.  In fact, this starting and stopping of the ESCALATION can work in your favor as it builds sexual tension.  There is a rhythm to escalation.  Each time you escalate, or push the physical interaction forward, it is an uncomfortable jump for both you and the girl.

As the man, it is your job is to escalate.  You stick your neck out at each bend in the road and deal with things in a patient and understanding manner in such a way as to allow her the most comfortable experience as possible.  Sometimes this will also mean that you escalate for her.  You make things alright for her.  Women want to have sex and do dirty things just as much as men do, but they have many more obstacles to overcome than we do.

There is a general path that most people take when going from ‘never touched’ to ‘doing it’.  While the path is slightly different for everybody, if you venture to fast from that path, or attempt to jump too far ahead — expect to encounter resistance.  If you do that, and there is no resistance, you are probably dealing with someone who has a history of being sexually abused.  More likely than not they will become cold and emotionless as you press forward.  My advice to you if you encounter this is to back off and let the interaction go.  You will find that as you become better and better at picking up women, you will start to become pickier and you will have less desire to deal with some of the things that you would have ignored in the past.  This is a definite sign that you are leaving the land of scarcity and  entering the realm of sexual abundance.

It is good to keep in mind that your role is to escalate while constantly building comfort, and it is her role to protect her social status and at the same time be allowed to deal with all of the conflicting feelings and emotions that come with getting sexual with a stranger at a faster rate than she is used to.  You are a pick up artist, you are a rarity among all of the chumps she is used to dealing with.  As such, you understand where she is coming from and you are at ease with the process.  Your ability to relax and remain comfortable during this process will help her to calm down and relax as well.

You may notice that I have said little in the way of actual techniques to deal with last minute resistance.  First off, every situation is different and as you gain more and more experience, you will learn different ways that are specific to your nature that will be effective in dealing with this.  Secondly, by nature, doing things that are in congruent will necessarily create discomfort in you, which will in turn make the woman feel discomfort.  With some women, doing take aways and freeze outs are the right thing to do, with others you may find that doing that completely ends the interaction.  By the way, never ever ever punish a woman because she gives you resistance.  Last minute resistance should always be interpreted by you that YOU haven’t created enough comfort for the woman to allow further sexual escalation.  Remember that.

You will find that as you get better and better sexually escalating with women that last minute resistance all but disappears and if you do encounter it, it is usually only much earlier on in the interaction because the woman can sense that something is going to happen anyway and she needs to give her token resistance so that she can be let off the hook socially.  You may hear lines like:

“Just so you know, Im having my monthly vist”, or

“I can’t stay for long because I have to go home and get up early for an appointment”, or

“My boyfriend says…”

The reason why they say things like this is because in their minds, they need to feel as if they are not accountable for anything that may happen.  The way each woman does this is as different as each woman’s finger print.  Look for it, and when you hear it, don’t make a big deal about it or tell her that you know why she is saying what she is saying.  Acknowledge what she is saying and move on like it is no big deal.  Most of the time I will look at her as if I hear what she said yet continue on as if nothing was said.  The last thing you wan’t to do is give her a rational argument about the benefits of sleeping with you.

“I told him I had a boyfriend” translates to “it was all his fault, I tried to make sure nothing slutty happened so that means I am not a slut!”

When I  hear these token signs of resistance, I know that the girl wants to have sex with me and she is attempting to clear a path for herself so that it is ok to proceed.  I usually deal with these token barriers with humor or I simply say nothing and don’t show any sign or reaction to them.  As a man, this is part of my job.  At this point, you are looking to get the both of you to start focusing on FEELINGS, logical talk is the very last place you want to go.  Any conversation that happens is fun and light — without much need to build further attraction so lighten up on the cocky/funny.  You aren’t a dancing monkey.

Getting mad, impatient or upset due to any bit of resistance she throws your way will kill the interaction.  Period.  Only chumps who never get laid get all upset and pissed off when a girl says ‘no’ to them.  Even if you are somewhat new to all of this and aren’t living in abundance, your job is to appear as if you do.  Fake it till you make it!

Remember these general rules:

• don’t escalate sexually until you are at a place where you will be able to close the deal
• never let any bit of resistance she gives you rattle you in any way
• expect her to do and say things so as to dismiss accountability on her part and preserve her social status (she can’t look like a slut in your eyes or in anyone else’s should they find out she slept with you)
• unless it’s a firm ‘get off me’, if she says ‘no’ yet continues to kiss and touch that means you should back up and stick with what she is comfortable with and wait to escalate until a bit later (little side note: if you are wondering if you should be escalating or not, chances are pretty good you should have at least 5 minutes ago!)
• never punish a woman for doing her job and trying not to look like a slut, your job is to show that you are comfortable with everything and that you understand where she is coming from
• it is always your job to move the interaction forward
• sexual escallation has a rhythm to it — one step forward … hang out and let her get comfortable … one step forward … one step back … wait and let her get comfortable… no timidness, but no rushing either.  When its time to escalate, escalate!
• in order for you to sexually escalate, you must be in the mood yourself.  Once you get there, let your urges guide you as to what to do next.  Having sex is a primal instinct, its hard wired into your body.  Even the freaky stuff — just take it slow and pay attention to her reactions
• resistance on her part = not enough comfort, if you are working on building comfort both physically as well as mentally, you will find that last minute resistance all but disappears
• comfort is also built psychologically by showing that you are NONJUDGMENTAL.  This is VERY important for a variety of reasons.  If you want a freak in bed, how is she ever going to feel comfortable doing dirty things with you when she see’s you making a big fuss over the way someone dresses or the fact that you think poor people are beneath you?  Most girls are insecure and notice things like that.  The minute they see you judging someone else, they start wondering to themselves how you are judging them!  Don’t do it.  Period.  Even if she does and tries to get you to join in.  You are too high value for the need to put other people down!
• When the both of you are working on doing the horizontal mambo, it is not the time for rational discussion.  She may attempt to escape the sexual tension by throwing logical conversation into the mix.  Do not be a part of it.  You don’t acknowledge that which you do not want to be a part of your reality.  Likewise, if you see that she is having emotional reactions, it is not the time to talk about what is going on or ask if she is ok.  The time for talking is after you have had sex, not before!
• One more thing:  the words “I’m sorry” or “sorry” should never cross your lips throughout the entire process, the only reason I can possibly see why you would have to say that is if she is down there licking your undercarriage and you accidentally break wind.  Even then the apology should wait till you are basking in post-coital afterglow.
• Last but not least — remember at all times that you are learning a skill set and as such you need to be easy on yourself and have a sense of humor about things when they don’t go right.  Not only will you learn faster with a flexible mindset, but you will certainly enjoy things a heck of a lot more.

Enjoy the ride!

Sexual tension is something that is rarely consciously cultivated or even talked about for that matter.  The reason for this is because it is a subjective experience between two people that is hard to define.  The things that we cannot define are usually not at the forefront of our conscious experience as we need words and symbols in order to represent things to ourselves in order to make them a part of our reality.

Sexual tension, or unresolved sexual tension can be defined as a tension or discomfort that arises  between two sexually compatible people who have real or imagined interference that stands in the way of their ability to experience sexual union.

If you’ve ever had the ….pleasure… of reading any romance novels or watching any of those girly movies, you will see that sexual tension is one of the main ingrediants in just about any female fantasy.

Can this mysterious quality be cultivated?  Is there something that we as men MUST do to inspire this feeling between ourselves and the women we desire?

The answer is a suprising NO.

Now before you get all depressed and give up on learning how to create this mysterious connection with the women of your dreams, understand that building sexual tension is more of a NOT DOING than it is something you create.  Once it’s there, it can be increased, but know that in order for the tension to be built upon, there is little that you can DO to create that initial seed.

Sexual tension automatically exists between men and women.  The reason why it normally doesn’t survive is because we tend to do things to destroy it because by its very nature, sexual tension is a form of discomfort.  The more you DO to create sexual tension, the more likely you are to destroy it!

There is an unspoken sexual chemistry that naturally exists between men and women that is so pervasive that we tend to ignore it.  Any male can have sex with any female.  When you really begin to understand this, you will see that the simple fact that you are a man makes you attractive.

So sexual chemistry naturally occurs when you as a male interact with a female.  Sexual tension occurs when the both of you begin to realise that there are things that get in the way of the two of you having sex.  You retain sexual tension by not doing the things that relieve this discomfort.  Here is a list of the things that you can do to allow this tension to build, or rather, allow it to remain.  The tension will build the more the woman realises the factors that stand in the way of the two of you doing the horizontal Mambo.

Sexual tension builds / accumulates when:

• you DONT look away when you make eye contact
• you DONT pull your hand away first when you shake hands
• you DONT speak to break awkward silences (this is important specially when you first begin interacting with a woman, in person or one the phone- let her squirm and let her find something to say to carry the conversation!)
• you DONT diffuse awkward moments for her
• you DONT aknowledge any tests or signs of rejection from her
• you DONT show emotional reaction through facial mannerisms or body language (as a result of any positive or negative interaction.  Being UNreactive is a masculine and attractive quality…
• you DONT lay your cards on the table and let her know just how into her you are.  Mysteriousness and uncertainty go a LONG way in building tension!

Be aware that women are just as programmed to break the discomfort of sexual tension as you are.  They often do this by touching you (touch can diffuse or escalate sexual tension depending on how its used).  Sometimes they will try to introduce logical conversation when they are feeling horny in an effort to escape the emotion or feeling of horniness.  When you become tuned into this, you simply dont allow them to do whatever it is they are trying to do in order to bleed off the tension.

BTW- sexual tension can be built verbally, physically and emotionally.  Experiment and observe.

You should also be aware that sexual tension should not simply be built, built, built.  If you allow the tension to build too much, at the wrong time or wrong place, it can backfire.  She may flake, act crazy or even become violent in extreme circumstances.    It is much better to allow the tension to build, release it a bit and then build it back over again.  Over and over, you want to create a rhythm.  This will create a tremendous pull (aka ‘attraction’) and will allow her to indulge in her attraction for you without setting off warning signals that you are some kind of player.  The exception to this, is when you are in a place that you will be able to go forward and end up sleeping with the girl.  In a situation like this, you want to create as much sexual tension as possible.  Sexual tension between two people is one of the main ingredients for good sex!

Are you wanting to learn how to pick up girls?  I am going to discuss something in this article that may have slipped your mind when you first decided to finally get off your butt and do something about this woman situation of yours.  You may end up thinking that this article is a little condescending, or a little redundant, but let me assure you — as a former keyboard jockey ignoring this important piece of information caused me to waste countless hours sitting around on the internet when I could have been logging in hours and meeting women out in the real world.  I want to discuss the importance of getting out into the real world to learn how to pick up girls as opposed to sitting online and discussing theory.

A large part of the reason why a lot of guys aren’t good with women is simply because, for whatever reason, they haven’t spent a lot of time socially interacting with women.  Fear and limiting beliefs are usually at the root of most of our problems when dealing with women.  This creates a snowball effect where many guys who fear women end up having negative interactions with women because they creep them out with their awkwardness.  In turn, a lot of guys end up making wrong assumptions as to why women don’t interact with them the way they would like.  Some become resentful and end up hating women, others internalize things and make up stories about themselves or excuses so that they can avoid putting themselves back into uncomfortable situations that end with them feeling rejected.  If you are reading this post, then its obvious you are somewhere along the path of uprooting some of your old behaviors and beliefs when it comes to picking up girls.  Good for you!

Your fear is what keeps you from progressing faster than you already are.  Let me rephrase that, you will learn to pick up girls at a faster rate the more you are able to identify fear and understand how it keeps you from doing the things that you perceive to be a threat to your well being.  Back in the day, before you decided to master this girl situation and become a pick up artist, your fear interpreted past failures with women to mean that there was something wrong with you.  In an odd way, you benefitted from this because this belief kept you from sticking your neck out.  You get rejected, you interpret that to mean that you are either undesireable or incompitent with women, so you now have the excuse not to try any more.  This kind of thing is pretty easy to see.

When you begin to study pick up, you need to keep a close eye on this type of behavior.  You will find that fear in some form or another will continue to find its way into the process and slow you down.  First, you will be afraid to approach.  Then, once you are finally comfortable with the whole approaching thing (rejection always sucks, but you learn how to deal with it better as time goes on) you will find yourself not taking certain risks or not pushing the interaction forward out of fear of the girl saying no to you.  A guy will go out to pick up girls, and won’t carry a rubber with him.  Unconsciously, he is holding himself back.  He fears whatever part of the process, and unconscious roadblocks appear.  If you stick with this long enough, you will find some form of fear at every sticking point you encounter.  It’s ok, its part of the process!

Some guys will get good at attracting girls, and find themselves interacting on a consistent basis without being able to get a phone number, a kiss or to take them home.  Usually the problem here is that they have finally pushed through a personal barrier and they don’t want to ruin their new self image by risking rejection.  They feel attractive because they can attract women, but they cant seal the deal and actually pick up girls and take them home with them because they unconsciously fear doing something to ruin their image of themselves.  As I have said before, getting good with women is an internal job.  Your self perception is basically an unquestioned collection of beliefs.  Often times, a lot of these beliefs are unquestioned.  Getting good at pick up is about consistently pushing yourself forward and challenging these limiting beliefs.  Its tough work and involves facing fear head on.  Luckily, we can do this in small, manageable chunks.  Just make sure that you occasionally ask yourself if you aren’t getting in your own way by holding onto certain things just because they feel comfortable.  Sitting at a computer and studying how to seduce women is comfortable and if I’m not careful, I can convince myself that I’m bettering myself by doing this but I’m really not.

If you want to learn how to pick up girls, you have to limit your time studying pick up material online.  It is quite natural to feel like you should be hunting down the latest and greatest techniques.  They aren’t going to do you a bit of good if you never get out there and make them yours.  You can have all the knowledge in the world how to pick up girls but it isn’t going to do you a bit of good if your ass stays glued to your chair!

You wan’t to learn how to pick up girls?

Go out and Pick up girls!

If you read my last article on how to pick up beautiful women, you may have been left feeling like the goods haven’t been delivered.  I can assure you, that if you master the qualities listed in that article, you will find yourself succeeding with women and pick-up a lot quicker than if I provided you with any specific technique.  Learning this stuff is a job that often requires changing from the inside out.  Many guys who get into this stuff say that it changes their lives in ways they never imagined.  My experience has been the same as well.  What I am going to do in this article is to provide a rough frame that needs to happen from the time you first see a woman until the point your ‘relationship’ is consummated.  Whether you choose to pursue a relationship, a friendship or move on afterwards, having sex IS the goal.  Your power and your options are usually as open as they are going to get after you have slept with a woman for the first time.

The first step in how to pick up beautiful women starts before you get your ass out where the women are.  Clean yourself.  Trim hair, floss, brush teeth…  You need to take care of the little details.  Thats one of the things that separates women from men.  By nature, women are programmed to read into little details.  My guess is that it is a neccisary trait for rearing children.  If you’ve got a little hole in your shirt, change it.  Women will notice little things like this, and make judgements about you because of them.  Believe it!

You have crossed your T’s and dotted your I’s.  You’ve got on clean drawers, and your bathroom is spotless ’cause you know there’s a damned good chance you are going to bring home a pretty lady.  You’d be surprised how many guys go out to pick up women, but don’t have condoms or a place in mind to go if they actually pick someone up.  You need to think about these things!

Anyways, you go to whatever venue that is populated with the kind of girls you want to meet.  You’ve got yourself in a happy, sociable mood and have warmed yourself up by interacting with just about anyone who has made eye contact with you.

You know what you are looking for, right?  You walk by the girl and she has got a body that calls out to you.  You make a quick survey of the land and take note of what she is doing.  What’s her posture like?  Who is she talking to?  Is she drunk?  Is she a part of a bachelor party? etc…  You don’t just walk by a woman, get an erection and then run in.  A quick approach is good, this is how you learn how to pick up beautiful women, you need to paying attention to everything that is going on and learn from the feedback that is given to you by your environment.

You approach, there’s a right way to do this- and it’s second nature for you at this point.  You open with … doesn’t matter what you open with, you’re in state.  Just about anything you could say is gonna come out alright because your words, your body language and even the way you dress, it all conveys that you are a high value guy and you are here to bring a good time.

You play at first, you aren’t there to interview so you aren’t asking boring questions about work or any of that nonsense.  You are waiting to see that she is invested in the interaction and shows some interest.  You wait to give her your name until she asks.  You wait to get into the personal stuff until its the right time.

Part III of How To Pick Up Beautiful Women will go into what happens after you have established that the girl is attracted and it’s time to move into building comfort (that is, unless she’s one of them party girls who is looking for a same night lay!)

If you want to learn how to pick up beautiful women, reading a couple of posts on the internet isn’t going to be enough.  Learning to be successful with women comes from a combination of questioning your beliefs, interacting with many women on a frequent basis, pushing your limits, guidance from those who know coupled with generous amounts of humility and self honesty.  Getting good with women is a tough sport.

Among the many beliefs you will find yourself questioning when you learn how to pick up beautiful women, one of the main beliefs that will have to be questioned will have to do with what you have learned from your environment with regards to what it takes.  Television, feminists, other men, movies…. there have been so many things that have influenced your belief system up and to this day that have had a negative impact on your ability to do well with women.

Probably the biggest roadblock many guys face when they first begin to try and learn how to meet women is approach anxiety.  Often times, they won’t even realize that what is holding them back is fear.  The thought of approach and rejection can stir up such powerful emotions that many won’t even recognize where their objections to getting out there and approaching women are coming from.  This can materialize as excuses of all kinds, from having things to do around the house to projecting negative feelings towards women.  For some, they believe it is better not to try and risk rejection than chase after the reward of a deeply rewarding skill set.

Another point that needs to be addressed when learning how to pick up beautiful women is overcoming limits.  This is just another form of self limiting belief but it is insidious.  Most of us have no idea what we are capable of.  We believe that only so much is possible, so we don’t even try.  Often it isn’t even a matter of fear, but a vague knowing that we aren’t capable of accomplishing something.  What is usually needed to push through these barriers is guidance from people who are exceptional at what they do.  In this case, a guy who is both good a seducing women as well as being able to articulate what he is doing.  There are many guys who are good at getting women, but couldn’t tell you what it is they are doing to save their life.

The final thing that ties all of this together, is self honesty and humility.  In my book, these are the same qualities.  If you have enough desire to push yourself and get out there and approach women often, you will have no other choice but to learn some humility.  Even super attractive men have to deal with rejection.  Even pick up artists like Mystery (of Mind Of Mystery) deal with rejection.  In fact, what makes these guys so good with women is because of the fact that they have likely delt with more rejection than hundreds of men combined!  Think about it.  Think about what kind of self image you need to have in order to deal with rejection on such a large scale, and be able to learn from it.  It is the only way to learn how to pick up beautiful women.