If you ever wanted to learn how to build sexual tension in women you just met or even a woman you have been with for years, know that tension isn’t some mysterious force that simply exists or does not exist. There are things you can do to build it up, and there are things you can do that will take it away.
An important element in building sexual tension in women is remaining mysterious. Many guys blow this when they find a girl they are interested in and begin ‘opening up’ and telling them their life’s story right off the bat. Aside from ruining her ability to be able to wonder about you, opening up in this way too soon sends a message that you have been dying to tell somebody your story. It reeks of being someone who has been lonely. In a long term relationship you may not be able to get away with doing this, but rest assured that there are even more powerful techniques I will discuss later on in this article that are open to guys who want to increase sexual tension in the woman they have been sleeping with for a long period of time.
Sub communicating that you are needy in any way is a sure fire way to destroy attraction and kill any tension that may exist – this applies to women you have just met, and it also applies to people in long term relationships.
If she asks you questions, give vague answers. If she presses on, make her guess. By working to get information out of you, she becomes more and more invested in the conversation with you. Allowing her the room to imagine things about you will ensure that she thinks about you when you are not around. Whether this is in your game plan or not, know that this is the time that people fall in love with each other. ‘Absence makes the heart grow fonder’ is a wonderful saying, just think about the last time you fell in love with someone. Im willing to bet that a large part of what built up to that situation was the fact that you where thinking about her in her absence. Im rambling off subject…
One of the most important things you need to remember when you are learning how to build sexual tension with women is the fact that there needs to be an opposing force to her attraction to you- other wise there is no ‘tension’. As counter intuitive as that may seem, trust the fact that she needs something to be in her way. Things that come easy to us are undervalued. Things that seem impossible to get are given up on. The idea here is to make sure there is some kind of impediment to hooking up with you or having sex. If it is a girl you have yet to sleep with, one of the best things you can do is to hide your sexual interest in her. Be aware that she will most likely do everything in her power to INDIRECTLY get some kind of signal that you are interested in her in a sexual manner. You know what happens when she gets that signal that you are ‘hers’? Thats right, her interest will take a nose dive.
What are the things she will do to find out that you are sexually interested in her? She may bring up a sexual topic and watch to see if you get excited to talk about it (this shows you are sexually needy), she may touch you – in a way that indirectly lets you know its ok to touch her, and then wait to see if you go all touchy-feely at the first opportunity. This is another way in which she will be able to get you to play your hand and show whether or not you are chomping at the bit to get sexual. Women want to sleep with sex worthy guys. Sex worthy guys live in a state of sexual abundance, and as such do not put sex above everything else and they certainly do not get tunnel vision or overtly display sexual interest with just any stranger or person they just met.
The idea here is that you resist your urge to give her sexual validation. She will do things to look for it. Do not openly comment on this (unless you know what you are doing)- that in itself will either trigger her anti-slut defence or if you are coming from the wrong place, it will show a lack of social intelligence on your part.
Another thing that you can do to build sexual tension with women is to tease them in a particular way. Commonly called “push pull” for our purposes here, it would be better to think of it as “pull push”. Keep in mind that all of this teasing is to be done in a lighthearted manner. NEVER serious! When we push, we do it in a playful manner. A couple of examples are in order:
“WOW! You are looking beautiful today … for a change.”
“You know, you are one of the hottest girls I’ve spoken to … in the last 20 seconds.”
“You have the cutest smile Ive seen today … oh wait I forgot, make that the second cutest smile.”
Giving compliments with an embedded take away are easy ways to build sexual tension using banter lines. They are delivered in a fun, playful manner but understand that even though you are relaying the information in a fun or sarcastic tone, there is a part of what you are saying that legitimately registers within her unconscious mind. Hearing conflicting statements like this will build attraction, give her hope that you are interested in her, increase her need to get sexual validation from you, and increase sexual tension.
For those who are in long term relationships or who are dealing with women they have already slept with or are dealing with a woman they know they can sleep with, a very easy way to build sexual tension with a woman is to impose false barriers.
“If we weren’t in a church right now, Id do XYZ”
“If I didn’t think that you would make too much noise, right now I would take you and XYZ”
The barriers can be anything. Watch out using them on women with low self esteem or on women that you have just met. Though it may work beautifully for some, if the woman is overly insecure you can make her give up. Keep your eyes open and watch her reactions. Calibrate! Know too that you can continue this kind of play indefinitely, continuing to create new barriers as old ones are removed. This can be a lot of fun, and at the same time you can take it too far. While you can NEVER have too much sexual tension, you can either trip off her insecurity or you can fry her circuits.
Yes, women can get sexually frustrated to the point of violence! Ive seen it happen.. Just remember to calibrate and pay attention to the reactions you get when you play like this. This is powerful stuff!
