HOW TO BUILD SEXUAL TENSION
Want to get women into bed fast? Creating massive amounts of sexual tension is one of the ways it can be done. In order to learn how to spark sexual tension, we must first define what it is, then we can discuss how to create it.
WHAT IS SEXUAL TENSION?
First off, psychological tension is defined as “a state of mental or emotional strain or suspense” or “the action of stretching something tight.” What this suggests is that sexual tension is a form of suspense in which there are conflicting drives at play. Obviously there is a sexual drive, but it needs to be coupled with suspense. So we can define sexual tension as the strain that is produced when sexual urges are in conflict with some other drive.
Usually this ‘other drive’ will be something along the lines of the woman not knowing whether or not you are interested in her in a sexual manner, or if she does, some other obstacle that is going to get in the way of you being able to consummate the act.
Unresolved sexual tension is a common theme amongst almost any romantic novel or girly movie in existence. Women LOVE sexual tension and are attracted to men who can inspire and play with this emotion. I say the word emotion for a reason, tension is a feeling and as such it can be coaxed, transferred and cultivated.
The first step in creating sexual tension in a woman is creating comfort, then we go on to sexual feelings. The way you do this is by first creating comfort followed by sexual feelings in yourself first! Remember, throughout the seduction process, your job is to lead. In order to lead someone into any state, you need to first go there yourself. The process in which you get sexual is similar to what a woman needs to feel sexual, though it may take a little longer.
Though sexual excitement is a form of arousal, we first need relaxation before we switch gears. This is a physiological process and has something to do with your autonomic nervous system and how our bodies function. Though most younger guys won’t have much of a problem with this, as we get older and our hormone levels change, you will notice that you are less quick to get excited. It is then that you will see how true this is. Relax first. Build comfort. It is part of the seduction process anyways. You get comfortable, and then you begin to visualize yourself doing sexual things with the woman you are talking to. The mental aspect of building comfort involves cultivating a warm and accepting vibe. Judgmentalness, ridicule and extreme sarcasm can kill a woman’s ability to feel comfortable around you — work to eliminate these mood killers from your persona, specially when it comes to seducing women.
During this process it is vital that you never play your hand and overtly admit that you want to have sex with her. This is one of the most important parts about creating tension. There needs to be a form of internal conflict. You should leave her guessing as long as possible. You hint at and make vague sexual statements that may have double meanings. This gets her thinking about sex without you telling her to. Ross Jeffries is THE master at this, he uses NLP and hypnotic language to get girls thinking about sex. If a girl is always thinking about sex when she is talking to you, and you haven’t directly brought the subject to her mind, guess what eventually happens? She believes she is sexually attracted to you!
So far, it goes like this:
- We create comfort, most problems that arise when trying to sleep with a woman, such as inability to overcome last minute resistance, have to do with a lack of comfort! Tension will make you sexually attractive, comfort (combined with logistics) will allow her to go there with you. The exception to this rule are ‘party girls’ or ‘adventuresses’ who are either too drugged up to care, low self esteem, or are thrill seeking.
- Once there is comfort, we go sexual ourselves, remember: state is transferable, as you get horny, she gets horny!
- We can also work on the mental level by using vague statement that can have sexual meanings while never directly admitting sexual interest, even if she asks or makes a comment about it. The idea is that we do not diffuse the sexual tension by validating her sexually.
- We can also increase sexual interest by the way you touch her. The same rules apply. Comfort first, and leave her guessing. Your touch should NEVER be overtly sexual until you are having sex! And even then, you tease, tease, tease! When it comes to touch, less is always more! Women often relieve sexual tension by trying to touch you –remember this and use it to your advantage!
- The name of the game in creating sexual tension is to leave her guessing. You never show your hand until it is too late. Even if she already knows you are into her, leave her guessing. Allow her natural insecurities to do their job and make her second guess herself.
Know that just because you have slept with, or seduced a woman, it does not mean that you can no longer create this form of sexual attraction through the use of tension. By continuing to find new and creative ways to implement false barriers between the two of you having sex, you can almost always find a way to create unresolved sexual tension. This is an essential component that often goes by the wayside in committed relationships. You can continue to improve sexual chemistry between you and your wife, girlfriend or whatever provided you remember to play around with tension.
Never let her off the hook and learn to thrive in this state. As you learn to cultivate and build sexual tension in women, you will begin to find just how much fun it is to play with this kind of energy. This is where seduction can get really fun — even if you dont end up sleeping with the girl!
